Ariana Grande on Double Standards & Misogyny

“Any woman who chooses to behave like a full human being should be warned that the armies of the status quo will treat her as something of a dirty joke…She will need her sisterhood.” – Gloria Steinem

That’s how Ariana Grande closes off her open letter on Twitter to her fans this past Sunday. Ever since her break up with rapper Big Sean, Arianna Grande has now been linked to other possible suitors and is constantly asked in interviews about her last relationship or her current dating status. Well she’s had enough and doesn’t believe a woman’s worth should be linked to a man.

“I’m tired of living in a world where women are mostly referred to as a man’s past, present of future property/possession.”

Here she is, on top of her game, pushing out hit single after hit single, yet the meat of the interview questions circle back to her dating life. She’s sick and tired of the double standards women face – the most notable one being that if a girl has a lot of sex, she’s considered a slut, but a man’s considered a stud. Coming from a long line of female activists she feels there’s still so much to be done when it comes to inequality of men versus women, and can’t wait for the day when people are not valued by who they’re dating, but rather as an individual.

Woman are human beings as well and face the same temptations as men, yet if she’s a sexual person, she’s less of a lady? There was a time when Coco Chanel was laughed at for wearing pants and blazers saying she dressed like a man. But now her legend lives on as one of the most prestigious fashion houses in the world. There was a time when women belonged in the kitchen and not the boardroom, but now we have the likes of Marissa Mayer, CEO of Yahoo turning around the company’s fate from failing to a winning business model. But when will society get real about women and sexuality?

There are plenty of women talking about it and then a whole other slew of women lying about their past, not because they’re ashamed of their actions, but because society shames them for being human.

My Woman Crush Wednesday goes out to 21 year old Ariana Grande, with over 20 million followers on Instagram and Twitter, knowing that if she spoke, she’d have people listening. As a Disney star turned music mogul, she took a risk knowing that often Disney stars are shamed for letting go of that good girl image and embracing female sexuality, so an open letter like this may not bode well with many of her fans. But as a wise man once said, “Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about things that matter.”

If we’re going to close the gender gap, it’s important to do it across all avenues. It’s not just men who are judging, it’s our female counterparts too. If we continue to judge our own, then we are simply exacerbating the stigma.

So when are we finally going to get real about issues that have been facing us for centuries? Ariana’s talking, I’m talking, who else is talking?



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